In my practice as a sex coach, I regularly hear two opposing opinions about having morning sex. Some claim it’s a boost of energy for the whole day and precious moments of closeness with your partner before starting your day’s journey. Others have only experienced disappointment and feel very reluctant to try morning sex again.
You might be used to kicking yourself out of bed in a grumpy mood, plus your breath is not fresh and the sunlight is killing any sexiness that might be left. However, I dare say that sex in the mornings can be enjoyable and a whole lot of fun if you keep in mind a couple of important rules. Read on to find out why fantastic morning sex should be in your to-do (or at least to-try) list.
Benefits of Morning Sex
1. Set the mood for the whole day
Having sex, no matter the time of the day, fills you up with energy, relieves stress, enhances positive emotions, as well as helps maintain the connection with your body. Isn’t this a good set to start your day with? Don’t limit yourself to sex before sleep just because “everyone else does that”. Instead consider the amazing benefits of orgasming before work and getting on with your daily routine having had a precious dose of sexual energy.
2. Bond with your partner
Many couples experience problems with morning communication, stating that it is a time when they keep their thoughts to themselves and don’t engage in any romantic endeavors. Of course, the annoying buzz of the alarm clock is still ringing in your head and you still haven’t had your morning coffee. But making an effort to establish a sensual bond with your partner will keep the connection strong throughout the day. Remember that oxytocin, the hormone of love and cuddling, is released if you have sex in the morning. Thanks to this hormone, regular morning sex can turn into an investment in a strong connection of mutual trust and respect between partners.
3. Improve your general health
Researchers claim that morning sex not only lets you start the day with pleasure but also improves your health by boosting your immune system. For example, morning sex results in an increase in estrogen, which improves the texture of your hair and skin.
4. Make love longer
Mornings are the time when men’s testosterone levels peak, meaning they are well-rested, energized and horny, which results in lasting longer. In fact, several men I have discussed this with also claim that their erections feel stronger in the morning, so this could be a good reason to have the very best sex of the day before leaving for work.
5. Stay in Bed a Little Longer
Many people are used to jumping out of bed and rushing to get ready for the day, yet my experience shows that setting the alarm a little earlier and taking the time to wake up calmly can improve your mood and feeling throughout the day. Staying in bed together with your partner, plus cuddling or having sex, is an even better addition for your and your partner’s wellbeing.
5 Tips:
How to have the best morning sex?
1. Schedule
Unless you are an early bird and need no alarm at all, morning sex can only work by scheduling it. Set your alarm a few minutes earlier just to be sure that you have a free moment to play around. Enjoy being slow, because you have scheduled some time for being together and pleasuring each other. You might even decide that on a particular morning you don’t feel like sex, but these couple of minutes are still a precious investment in your bond.
2. Be cuddly not rough
Mornings are the time of bonding, cuddliness and romance. Compliment your partner, kiss their neck, be sneaky and slow. I don’t recommend getting too kinky or rough without prior consent because your partner might not be ready to go all in your kinky desires. Consider morning sex a foreplay before more kinky adventures in the eve.
3. Careful with surprises
Waking your partner up a little before the alarm probably wouldn’t cause any bad feelings. However, being too proactive and doing a blowjob while he sleeps could be understood differently. Make sure your partner consents to this and doesn’t feel forced into sex.
Another idea you could use is morning shower sex. Have you ever knocked on the door and asked to join them in shower? If you didn’t initiate sex right after waking up, shower time might be another great opportunity for a quick and steamy intercourse. Remember – it is always a good idea to make sure that your partner actually wants to have sex at the given moment and is not preoccupied with other things in their thoughts.
4. Leave the phone our of the way
This is a must! Do not check your phone right after opening your eyes. Resist the urge to check work email or social media. Once your thoughts are in work, your sex drive is gone. Instead kiss your partner, cuddle. If you want your partner to feel aroused, make sure they are relaxed and not bothered by any work-related issues. Breaking the habit of staring at the screen in bed shows your partner that you prioritize your relationship over anything else and are ready to spend quality time together.
5. Morning breath and other smells
Self-consciousness about morning breath and body odors after sleep is a common reason why couples avoid sex in the morning. These issues, however, are very easy to solve! Keep a pack of baby wipes within easy reach from your bed and clean yourself up without leaving to the bathroom. When it comes to morning breath, many use breath strips to freshen up their breath, but I am really not a fan of those. Usually I recommend exploring different positions for sex and other places you can kiss and caress. Try their neck, earlobes, or go for oral sex. There are plenty of ways to avoid the morning smells without killing the sexual vibe. A couple of my favorite morning sex positions are spooning and doggy style. Both help keep the aforementioned concerns at bay, are simple enough for your sleepy and lazy morning body, and yet are undeniably sexy and arousing.